Breakups are hard and there is no denying that. Separating yourself from your significant other is not only a change in your daily routine but also your habits that develop after many lovely days spent together. While at times breakups come as a relief from a long, painful relationship; there are changes that might make one feel a little lost in the recovery process. And it is absolutely normal. Everybody goes through the pain of overcoming a bad breakup and we feel that it is important at some level. The one thing that can make overcoming a bad breakup easy is not looking at it in a negative light. When you’re going through a breakup ask yourself if you really need a complicated, unrewarding relationship. We are sure the answer will be no and if it is, move on. Take a look at the positive side and understand yourself better. Here are ways to overcome a bad breakup and come out of it feeling light and refreshed.
PS: There is no fast way of getting through a breakup. It is a gradual process and taking time to grieve is very normal.
#1 Understand the importance of being in a rewarding relationship
Breaking up isn’t always as bad as it is touted to be. Being in a relationship that doesn’t make you feel emotionally empowered is worse than being in no relationship at all. Think about your equation with your parents or your best friend. If your significant other doesn’t reciprocate feelings the same way they do, they do not deserve to be “significant” in your life. Understand it and move on and find someone who would treat you as an equal.
#2 Socialise but spend some time with yourself too
It’s a common perception that getting too busy is the best way of getting out of a daunting breakup. It is true, but not entirely. Filling the new void in your life with friends and work is all right, but it is essential that you become comfortable with the idea of not having another person around. Spend some time alone, by yourself to make your peace with it and move on in a healthy fashion. And by healthy, we do not mean with a bottle of vodka, a jar of Nutella and a rom-com with Jennifer Aniston.
#3 Take time to grieve
It’s okay to hold your own while going through an emotional trauma, but taking time to grieve is vital. You will think about moments from the past and it will make your cry and it is best to just do it! Call up a friend and talk to them about how you feel, cry if you feel like. Believe us; it’ll be better than crying in front of Tom from work with a glass (read bottle) of wine in your hand. Think about what’ll happen on Monday after, therefore, just stick to friends for the grief.
#4 Don’t be disheartened by your breakup, take it in a positive stride
Breakups happen because two people cannot understand everything about each other. And both the people are at fault, stop punishing yourself alone. Instead, take this as learning to a better relationship, when you have one. Reflect on what went wrong and correct it so next time when love comes your way, you treat it well.
#5 Start a fitness regime
Join a gym or a fitness studio and get going. Exercise is an underutilised antidepressant and you must make good use of it. We’d recommend a mix of yoga, zumba, cardio and strength workouts to keep the excitement alive. You’ll learn something new, make new friends and get a good change. Go out, get fit, feel healthy and embrace a new lifestyle.
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#6 Write about how you feel
Another underutilised way to overcoming a bad breakup is writing.You will feel the need to make an angry phone call or leave an angry text message but take it from us, it will not help. It might make things worse actually. Space yourself out from your SO for a bit and instead of the angry call/text, write how you feel on a piece of paper. By writing we do not mean send it out via post, NO! Just write and vent out. We are sure you’ll feel better.
All said and done, breakups are tough but relax, the worst is over. You need to look at all the new adventures that are waiting. We hope this guide to overcoming a bad breakup helps you. Take care of yourself, breathe and smile.
